Job Hunting Lessons From the Bachelorette -

Job Hunting Lessons From the Bachelorette -If youre like me, you might have a weakness for drama-ridden reality television. While recently watching perennial favorite The Bachelorette, I was reminded that the Would you please accept this rose? format is anything but reality. I also realized that the process of looking for a job is notlage so different. Here are some similarities the two situations have in common.You have to date before you become engagedEvery season of the Bachelorette includes an overeager candidate who already wants to marry the Bachelorette before he even meets her. Just as you cant properly pick a fiance based on what you see on television, you cant truly tell whether an employer is a good fit just by looking at their Web site. Its logical to date someone for a while before you decide to marry them. Likewise, its good to interview with a company in person before you decide that you definitely want to work there.Theres always competitionMuch of the drama on the Ba chelorette develops throughout the season as the contestants develop romantic feelings for the woman, but then have to watch her dating numerous other people. Although you generally never know who youre competing against for a great job, much of the time youre competing against someone whos just as great as you are. Just like a Bachelorette contestant, you have to put your best foot forward throughout your job search, but also realize that a company might just feel a better connection with another candidate.Use your time wiselyAnother classic scenario on the Bachelorette is the eliminated contestant saying his final piece to the cameraShe and I could have had a wonderful thing, but she just didnt get to see the real me. Shy contestants often get eliminated quickly on the show because the Bachelorette gets a much better feeling for the mora outgoing guys around her. The same is true throughout your job hunt. Even if youre naturally reserved or shy, you have to push yourself to show y our true colors within a short period of time. An employer may review your resume for 30 seconds before moving on to the next one, or interview you for 30 minutes before meeting their next candidate. Companies make hiring decisions based on very limited contact with each candidateso make sure youre taking full advantage of every moment of their time that you getJessica Holbrook Hernandez is an expert resume writer, career and personal branding strategist, author, speaker and President/CEO of Great Resumes Fast. She creates high-impact, best-in-class, resumes and cover letters that transform job searches into interviews and ultimately job offers. For more information about professional resume writing or to read more career and job search related articles visit http//www.greatresumesfast.com or call 1.800.991.5187.

Dear Husband, Stop Asking Me to Remind You to Do Things

Dear Husband, Stop Asking Me to Remind You to Do Things I get it, honey. Being a working parent is hard. You know how I know? Because Im one too There is soooo much to remember (the train schedule, meeting times, deadlines), plus so much to do (washing the kids sheets, blankets and bottles for daycare, responding to birthday party invites, signing permission slips, helping ur preschooler with homework, buying food and feeding ur family, for starters). As wonderful as you are, many days, I feel like Im doing and remembering most things for our family.I love that you cook your own dinner and do your own laundry. Youre the epitome of a grown-ass man ... in most ways. But you do this weird thing You ask me to remember things for you. Its not that I dont want to help you. I do. And yes, between the two of us, I do have the better memory. The problem is I have no unused brain space. In fact, I prioritize all the info in my head so that when my brain gets full, as it does on a daily basis, low-priority stuff, such as when the next season ofThe Marvelous Mrs. Maisel is up on Amazon and when CVS coupons expire, disintegrate to make room for high-priority stuff, such as that I need to have given feedback on three feature stories before I sign off from work for the day and that our baby needs his liquid vitamin as soon as we all get home.Its exhausting, and sometimes impossible, to find an empty, properly prioritized mental filing cabinet for all that youd like me to remind you to do.Remind me to get a present for my sisters birthday. (I wound up taking care of it myself.)Remind me when I cant find my headphones tomorrow that theyre in my jacket pocket. (I didnt. You found them anyway. Gold star for you.)Remind me to register for open enrollment. (I didnt, but Im really glad you remembered so we can have another year with health insurance.)Babe, Im not aGoogle calendar. You know what is? A Google calendar. Do you know you can use it to set reminders? Of course you do Youv e actually asked me to put reminders in there for us. Im also not your administrative assistant.Im fully aware that youre more helpful to me than your father and grandfathers were to their wives. I appreciate that so much. But even though you might think were on equal footing at home and at work, were so not. If were ever to be, I have to do less for you so I may do more for me. And that doing includes remembering and reminding anything that requires thinking is a chore. I know you agree, otherwise you would remember your own damn things.--This article originally appeared in Working Mother.